My story

My spiritual path began in 2017, when I was turning 30, suffering from anxiety that left me drinking multiple bottles of wine a night and at a loss to the direction of where my life was meant to go. It was NOT a pretty look, it definitely was a pretty mess. In the span of that year, I was forced out of my teaching career -which was my identity- my boyfriend, who I wanted to marry, broke up with me triggering panic attacks, and I thought I was going to watch my dad die when my 2009 Honda Pilot (a massive vehicle) fell on top of him. Oh yea, I almost forgot the cherry on top, my mom was diagnosed with Stage 4 breast cancer.

There were so many times during that year I wanted to scream (ok I did scream), “Come the F*&^ on Universe. Why?”

At the time, I had no idea what was in store for me, but now I know it was all in preparation for what was to come: self-reflection and healing. In other words, the work.

The end of 2017 going into 2018 felt like diet spirit soda compared to what followed three years later, when our world was shut down by COVID-19, and mental health issues, that were once dormant, quickly percolated to the surface causing s#@$ to get real. Like really, real.

In the early spring of 2021 I was raped. I took a three month leave of absence from work and was able to participate in therapy 3-4 times a week using eye movement desensitization reprograming (EMDR). Simplified down for those of you who are unaware about EMDR, it’s a technique where a therapist connects the mind and body, to allow the brain to process a traumatic event as just a memory, rather than eliciting a physical response.

It is a healing modality to trauma and I am eternally grateful to my therapist for the freedom it granted me, and the path it set before me. Through that experience I was able to connect deeply with my spirit and it profoundly changed my life. Through this process I was able to find forgiveness toward the man who abused me, all while being grateful the experience happened because it brought me closer to myself. Without this excruciating experience, I would not have learned about myself on this level.

The past six years have worked in my favor, building a foundation of strength that I have needed to overcome the transitions that life inevitably offers. Those years put me through the fire, and I’m standing a better, more compassionate version of myself than I was before.

Oh yeah! I almost forgot to share that they also revealed to me my life’s passion and purpose, which is coaching other women through transitions and challenges, which has been the greatest honor of my life.

Giant sequoias trees can grow upwards of 300 feet, but without fire they cannot reproduce new forests. Humans are similar, in that it is our nature to grow and expand, and yet, we need a destructive force to create new opportunities in our lives. 

What will you do with the fire?

Everyone’s journey looks different, and whatever led you here, I am grateful our paths crossed, and I am able to walk this portion with you.

With light and gratitude,

Kaleigh Becker, M.Ed, ACC, ELI-MP